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Post by Jana on Sept 28, 2004 12:25:43 GMT -5
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Post by kristiduckett on Sept 28, 2004 18:27:37 GMT -5
Your Parenting Style: Participative
This parenting style is patient and tolerant, and such a parent naturally enjoys the nurturing process. This style is best at educating and counseling children who require special attention. Too often, however, children "become the boss" if the parent does not compensate by confidently and assertively maintaining control.
Your parenting style is patient and relationship-centered. Relationship-centered people tend to focus on nurturing and caring for others. Rather than telling your children what to do, you are more comfortable "asking" them. For instance, you're comfortable saying "Will you please clean your room?" rather than "Go clean your room." You occasionally find it difficult confronting your children because you would rather be a friend than an authoritative parent. This relationship-centered, "I'm your friend" approach is quite healthy as long as your children consistently learn persistence and self-discipline through your example, their extracurricular activities and appropriately enforced limitations. If they take control of your relationship before you instill strong values and teach them impulse control, they risk becoming uncontrollable teenagers. Remember that a sailboat without a rudder ends up on the rocks. Decisive action and consistent, predictable discipline are required in "emergency mode" situations that place your children in harm's way (such as running into the street or playing with matches). Compensate for your desire to avoid confrontation by using power phrases (such as "I'm going to have to ask you" rather than "Will you please do this?" or "Please do me a favor") and, especially if you have a strong-willed child, consider assertiveness training from your university. Another excellent resource is Harriet B. Braiker's book The Disease to Please (McGraw Hill, 2001).
HUH??? Ok, so the first paragraph is right on, but that stuff about avoiding confrontation with them is nuts. I do avoid confrontation with other people, but my kids know the rules and who is in control. Weird.
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Post by chelle_belle99504 on Sept 29, 2004 0:15:28 GMT -5
Kristi ~ Mine is the same! I also don't like to confront others, but my kids will know the rules and who's boss.
Chelle
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